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How to Last Longer in Bed with Your Loved One

Looking for ideas on how to last longer in bed with your loved one?

Here at The Adventure Challenge, helping couples build a joyful, satisfying sexual connection is part of our mission. We have found that connected sex equals better sex! Here are some ideas and suggestions on how you can learn how to last longer in bed and extend your intimacy in the bedroom:

How to last longer in bed with your loved one

#1 - Focus on having fun

While there are things you can do – medically and otherwise – to work on how to last longer in bed, the truth is that even if you aren’t able to be 100% in control of your sexual stamina, you can still be in control of your experience with your loved one. The intimacy and fun that you can have in the bedroom isn’t determined by how quickly you or your partner orgasms!

How to Last Longer in Bed with Your Loved One: Couple playing chase down the hall in their underwear.

Like we said at the beginning: connected sex is better sex! How would your sexual connection change if you shifted your focus from having a certain kind of sex, to having a certain type of experience with your partner?

Focusing on having fun together takes the pressure off either of you having to perform in any particular way and puts the emphasis firmly where it should’ve been all along: the pleasure of being together. So brainstorm sex ideas that sound fun, not just the ones that help you last longer in bed. And if you need any help with that, you’re in luck: The Adventure Challenge …In Bed Edition is full of 50 amazing sex ideas to boost your sexual connection… and help you have a lot of fun while doing it.

#2 - Take breaks

One piece of practical advice on how to last longer in bed is this: don’t be afraid to take breaks and switch up what you’re doing. If you start to get close to orgasm, tell your partner and switch things up. It might just be time to change your pace, but it could also be a moment to change your position, or even shift gears entirely.

How to Last Longer in Bed with Your Loved One: Guy playfully pinning his girlfriend down on bed as they smile.

If you and your loved one are on board with making it last all night, you could agree to pull back when things get intense and spend time just kissing and cuddling before ramping up again. This is called ‘edging’, and it’s an effective way to last longer in bed. It might take a few tries to get your timing right, but you know what they say… practice makes perfect!

#3 - Spend time on the sensual, not just the sexual

If you’re thinking about how to last longer in bed with your loved one, it can be helpful to zoom out and look at extending your sexual time together as a whole, not just the length of penetration.

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Slow down and focus on sensual exploration and play. That could look like investing in some massage oils, helping each other bathe or shower, or just spending time making out without needing to move on. This can also be a moment to express your love and affection: a time to build up your emotional connection, which only enhances your sexual experience. 

Being present in the moment, enjoying each other’s bodies without heading straight to the ‘main event’, is a great way to make your time together last as long as possible – plus, the anticipation builds and builds.

#4 - Have more than one round

If you’re looking up how to last longer in bed because you find yourself orgasming prematurely, it might actually be time to embrace that. Talk with your partner about doing something fun the first time around – and once you’ve had your first orgasm, turn your focus exclusively to them and their pleasure until, eventually, you’re ready for round two.

How to Last Longer in Bed with Your Loved One: Couple sitting on floor in their underwear as they share an embrace.

 

Many people find it easier to last longer in bed once they’ve already orgasmed once, and if you know that’s your plan from the start, it lets you really relax into making your loved one feel good. Extend your sexual playtime with one another by using our …In Bed book that has 50 scratch-off adventures for in and out of the bedroom.

Final thoughts

We hope this has been a helpful part of your journey to more satisfying, more connected sex! For more inspiration, feel free to check out these fun sex ideas. 

Ready to spice things up even more in the bedroom? Get The Adventure Challenge …In Bed Edition with 50 scratch-off adventures for in and out of the bedroom! Save 15% off with the code: CONNECTEDSEX 

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